Online Dating – Potential Dangers and Disasters

You’ve just clicked the last box in the long list of procedures to join XYZ online dating service, confident that everything you put in your profile was exactly as you wanted. You double checked, didn’t you?

Oops, you accidentally left in some key information that will make you readily identifiable to all your friends, family and co-workers. Now everybody will know about your absolute sheer desperation to find a partner.

Or worse! You put on your profile a photograph of yourself, half-plastered with alcohol at the last Christmas party, lipstick smeared across your cheeks (I haven’t mentioned any gender here, so whatever pictures you have in your mind are entirely your input).

So, you see. This is a potential minefield…and we haven’t even been out on our first date yet, have we?

But don’t despair or feel that the cat is out of the bag. You can always go back to the profile and change the details/remove the photos/delete your entire account if you are scared enough.

But let’s be serious here for a moment. In the following paragraphs I’m going to go through the three most apparent “dangers” of Internet dating.

The Stalker

Yes, ladies and gentlemen. I will put this horrible creature at the top of the list. We have all heard the horrifying stories that have often ended in tragedy. Even murder. Quite often these terrible events have come after encounters on the more “adult-oriented” sites. Perhaps a threesome has become a deadly game filled with jealousy and hatred, after what seemed to be such a cool idea at the time.

Even on a more mundane level, there are nutters out there who have harassed poor women (and men) to the point of psychological breakdown. Yep, it happens.

But, there are ways to avoid this. These guidelines, by no means a definitive list, are especially relevant for women and may help you in a tricky situation.

  1. Never put direct contact details in a profile. Most dating sites will not allow this anyway, as long as their screening procedures are up to standard.
  2. Make sure your first meetings are in well-patronized areas, like a food-court in a shopping mall, or some other busy place. That way, if the man/woman turns out to be less than what you hoped for, you can blend into the crowd before slipping away.
  3. If you feel nervous, take along someone you know and trust well and have them observe you from a distance. You won’t believe how much more confident this makes some women feel.
  4. Don’t give your phone number to your new online friend until you feel it is safe to do so. When is this? Certainly not after date number one.
  5. This may sound drastic, but keep some form of protection (in addition to condoms!) in your handbag (mace, capsicum spray, a very loud alarm device) in case you find yourself alone and in an intimidating environment. In the same vein, go and get some self-defense lessons – it will keep you fit and desirable as well as give you valuable knowledge about groin attacks and the like!

The Don Juan Crook

These are men, nine times out of ten, and there are more and more stories of these guys emerging every day.

This is where a super-charmer convinces their new date/partner that they are world-famous, super successful and know all the celebrities. For some reason or other, all their funds are tied up in something, and they cannot get their hands on ready cash for day-to-day living, or for some other “sure-fire” investment.

Before you know it. Mr or Mrs Gullible Internet Dater have handed over their bank account details, credit cards, or even packed the rolls of cash into the suitcase before driving Don Juan to the airport and kissing him good-bye as he boards the plane for Rio!

How do you avoid these crooks? It can be difficult for lonely folks, especially widows and widowers (beware the female black spider!), so the best advice here is to enlist a friend or two to give you an absolutely candid appraisal of your new-found Prince/Princess Charming.

The Dishonest Dating Site with Fake Members

This problem had a bit of press in Australia recently. I won’t name the actual site, but the owners were punished by the courts and made to apologize to their members.

Sadly, it can be hard to spot the fake profiles, sometimes answering you via sophisticated software programs, or even by real people paid to pretend they are someone else (backpackers in Australia, for instance).

If you aren’t careful, these pseudo-daters can waste a lot of your valuable time and money.

The best way to avoid being scammed in this way is to ask specific questions that only a real person would know the answers to. For example, ask about current events in your local area. If they can’t or won’t answer, you might be dealing with a robot!

However, in my opinion, Internet dating is a great option in today’s fast-paced world. People are time poor, and lack the freedom to socialize they way it used to be in the “good old days’.

Online daters just need to be alert to the potential dangers, and take the appropriate steps to minimize the damage.

Happy dating!

Look For Love: Online Dating Made Easy

Have you ever given a thought to using online dating to look for love? Did you realize that many of the best online dating services offer better options now, than they ever did before? Has the bar scene gotten old, quickly? If you want to look for love, and you want to have an astonishingly large pool of potential dates to choose from, look no further than online dating to get meet the man of your dreams.

How to Choose An Online Dating Service

Choosing an online dating service that is right for you is now easier than it ever was before. To begin with, there are many top quality services out there, and all of them have something special to offer their members. Many offer free trial periods so you can test out the special features they offer and see whether their site is the best place for you to look for love. If you don’t like it, you can move on to the next.

Many sites cater to specific demographics. If you ascribe to a certain set of religious beliefs, or if you like certain sports or even if you love certain pets, you can find a dating site that has been set up just for those people like you who want to look for love among people who want the same things.

Other sites are set up to allow you to seek a mate from people with the best possible educational backgrounds, and some even cater to people who make a certain amount of money annually. No matter who you are, or what you are looking for, you can definitely find the kind of dating site that will give you the greatest potential of finding the perfect mate.

How To Build Your Online Dating Profile

When you build an online dating profile, you may feel tempted to make yourself out in the best light possible. Although this might seem like a good idea, rest assured that if you tell any lies as you look for love, your potential dates will find out, and you’ll be back at square one.

The best way to go about building your profile is this:

Know What You Are Looking For – Be sure to use positive terms to describe what you are looking for, and what you want. You are here to look for love, not to complain about past relationships or go into detail about the worst date you’ve ever been on.

Tell The World Who You Are – Let the people who will be looking at your profile see the real, true you. This will give you the best chance at finding a compatible partner you can be happy with! Don’t make things up. You are who you are, and that’s great!

Be Open To Meeting A Variety Of People – As you look for love online, keep in mind that the best possible match for you might not look exactly like the person you are envisioning. Looks might seem important, but remember – they fade over time. Allow yourself to be open about who you are willing to meet and date – you might just discover that the guy with the big ears, who others have passed over, is an amazing partner.

Online Dating Guide For Men Over 40

In fact, maturity gives you distinctive advantages. By now you know who you are and what you want in life. The women you will be dating also have grown up and learned how to live their lives. It’s time for less games and more transparency and openness.

1. Write down what you seek.

You can get exactly what you are looking for. If you simply want some casual encounters, enjoying ladies’ attention and entertaining, this is achievable.

If you desire a committed partner to spend the rest of your life with, it’s also possible to find. You are still young enough to make it happen.

Even if you dream about family and kids, it’s not too late. For example, Slavic women from countries of the former USSR with unfortunate gender ratios are seeking partners online and they are willing to accept someone older to be able to realize their dreams of family and marriage.

For instance, in Ukraine women are in the situation of 86 males for 100 females. It’s plainly impossible for some single ladies to find partners. A single 35-year-old Belarus woman would be usually open to accept a man who is 30-50 years old, or even older. Besides, a 35-year-old lady will be really eager to cut the chase and get married quickly to start a family sooner. Such realistic options in our age of total Internet connectivity became accessible to anyone.

No matter what you are looking for, there is a quick and efficient way to make your dreams come true. Just be honest about what you really desire and don’t sell yourself short.

2. Get great photos.

Online dating is all about presentation. You will improve your chances to meet quality women and cut down rejections dramatically if you have an excellent photo in your profile, as compared with a gloomy selfie shot.

Save yourself time and money that you will inevitably waste in dead-end dates by getting nice pictures for your online dating profile.

>> Women love style. A guy in a collared shirt and pants looks more attractive to ladies than a man in a stretched T-shirt. Better quality women pay even more attention to the way you dress.
>> Smiling in your photo helps you appear approachable and happy with your life.
>> Beautiful surroundings lift up the spirit of your photo. It makes your picture stand out from the crowd.

3. Write positive texts.

We all know people who manage to bring the liveliest party down. Certainly, no one wants to spend the rest of their lives-or even one date!-with someone who constantly complains. If you want to talk about things that are important for you, make sure you do it in a positive way.

For instance, instead of “I despise smokers” write “I prefer people who do not smoke”.

4. Be open and truthful.

It may be tempting to shave a few years or pounds in your online dating profile but resist the urge. Sure, we’d love to think that we look younger than our biological age. This is quite typical for people, while it’s unlikely for anyone to make a statement, “I look older than my age”.

Ladies will notice if you indeed look good for your age and they will be excited about it. But starting with lies is not a good way and could drive the girl to feel used. Rather tell the truth and lay a strong foundation for a first-class connection.

5. Let them see the real you.

There are certain things that make you unique. If your friends were asked to characterize you in 3-4 words, what would they say? You may think some of your distinct features are unremarkable or even negative, but you could be surprised, there are other people who have a different view. They find such traits attractive or admirable.

Some Romanian women may view certain qualities in a man attractive, while local ladies would see them in a different light. By the way, even in your local area people have different opinions. By being sincere you will attract like-minded people and put off the ones who are unsuitable for you.

This is why it’s best to describe precisely what makes you the person you are. That’s the easiest way to find a good match through online dating.